New year, new you right? WRONG! Unless you change your mindset all those new year's resolutions mean nothing. I am sharing 5 ways to genuinely change your 2021.
It’s tempting to jump into the New Year resolution bandwagon with a laundry list of things that you would like to do. Not only is it tempting, it is probably very well intentioned.
After all: New Year, New You Right?
While it is a New Year, it is same you that was there last year
And the year before,
And the year before that.
Unless you are willing to change your fundamental mindset - nothing will change this year.
Let me say that again: unless you are willing to renew your mind, change your perspective, your outlook you will be here at the beginning of 2022 again with the new year new year hopes.
Kind of harsh I know but this is coming from someone who has been there and done that and had a full year go by with little change. If you want to see new things this year, you will have to do things differently otherwise as Einstein put it,
Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result ~ Albert Einstein
So how do you do that? Here are 7 practical ways:
1. Stop dwelling on the past
If you want to change your present and your future you need to let go of the past. The wound that 2020 inflicted may still be fresh, but in order to fully embrace the new year, you need to forgive, let go and move on. It is crucial for you to not carry the baggage from years past into the new year. If there are major hurdles that you are unable to let go of yourself, consider therapy to help you work through what you're going through. It will do you wonders and open you up to really walk into all the amazing things that await.
To open yourself to new way of thinking, you need to feed your mind. Purpose to read more in 2021. I have a PhD but can I admit to you that I haven't read for leisure or for professional development in a while. One of the ironies of higher education is that it sucked the desire to read for pleasure right out of me. Now that I have somewhat recovered, I am ready to embrace new knowledge. I plan on reading 21 books this year. Not sure where to start? I wrote this blog post that should be a great starting point on 5 books you need to read in 2021. If reading is not your thing consider audiobooks or podcasts.
3. Build your tenacity
One of the patterns I had to change in order to break through from past mindsets was to build tenacity. Tenacity is that aspect of being very determined, it is persistence. It is not giving up and pushing through. There will be circumstances, attitudes, seasons that you will need to push through in order to change your year. The very act of pushing through will help you have a different outcome at the end of the year and will change your mindset.
4. Review your circle
Whoever is speaking into your life will have an impact on your mindset. Birds of a feather flock together. One strange silver lining of the covid19 context is that we don't have to see people who we don't want to see. Go a step further and examine those who speak negativity and limitations over your life. While you can't get rid of family members so quickly, you can limit your exposure to toxic ideas or mindsets that keep you where you don't want to be.
5. Review your social media consumption
We spend a lot of time scrolling on our phones. I looked up some statistics on the average amount of time spent on social media and on phones in general and found this:
The average internet user spends 2 hours, 24 minutes daily on social media in 2020 (Source: We Are Social)
Facebook users are spending 38 minutes per day on the platform in 2020.(Source: Social Media Today)
50.1% of the time spent on mobile is done using social media apps.(Source: We Are Social)
Bottom line: we spend a lot of time consuming information, ideas, and content that shapes our thinking. I am working on a post on how to curate your social media feed into an echo chamber of encouragement. In the meantime, pay close attention to the information that you are taking in: if it builds you up, keep consuming; if it tears you down, cut down time spent, and curate the content to align with where you want to be in 2021. For example follow fitness bloggers who provide you with practical tips that will help you achieve your health and fitness goals. Follow me @careerslaymama and other career strategists so you are motivated to SLAY your goals throughout the year.
6. Get professional help
There are some areas of your life that you will not have the skills or expertise to change. Perhaps you have tried of your own strength and this hasn't worked. This is the year that you need to get help whether that is a life coach, a financial advisor or coach, a physical fitness trainer, a nutritionist. You get what you pay for and at some point, consider yourself and your mindset worth investing in.
7. Set your mind on things above
One of the most effective ways that I have found to renew my mind has been through scripture. The bible is so rich with scripture on how to renew your mind:
Do not conform to the world but me transformed by the renewing of the mind (Rom 12:2)
For My thoughts are not your thoughts neither are your ways My ways declares the LORD. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, So are My ways higher than your way and My thoughts higher than your thoughts (Isaiah 55:8-9)
Finally brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy - meditate on these things. (Philippians 4:8)
Mediate on the Word of God but don't just meditate, apply the Word in your daily walk and allow yourself to experience its transformative power.
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